Hidden Obsessions & Female Muscle

Hidden Obsessions & Female Muscle

It seems that many people that love female bodybuilders keep it hush hush in their public lives. These private admirers sift through female muscle related websites and forums, afraid to let the outside world know. Why is that?

The internet has created a new culture where anyone can anonymously find and access information on any interest or fetish. A sort of digital Peeping Tom arose or … the Lurker. Lurkers are common in internet culture and research indicates that they “make up over 90% of online groups” (Nonnecke & Preece 2000). I would guess the number amongst female muscle fans is even higher. Here may be a few reasons why.

MSNBC recently did a story on how Cultural images influence our perception of attractiveness. It cites an article in Psychological Science that says what we think is attractive, or beautiful, is whatever requires the least amount of effort. Basically whatever is easiest and familiar. “What you like is a function of what your mind has been trained on,” says Piotr Winkielman of the University of California at San Diego.

I’ve seen many blogs cite female bodybuilders as “horrifying” or “freaks” yet they show photo after photo. One writer called them “vomit-inducing” which “inspired me to create this collection of horribly unattractive muscular women.” The photo shown was beautiful Lenda Murray with the tag ‘ugly women’. Another writes, “Female bodybuilders are like futuristic cyborg soldiers sent to Earth to scare the complete sh*t out of grown men, children and small animals.” We get the point. The general media doesn’t think women with muscle are attractive… or secretly do they? Why go to all the trouble of lambasting these women.

An article from Asylum.com rates Female Bodybuilders as the #1 type of woman that men secretly lust over. They say “Sexual attraction is a mystical voodoo, and we often secretly want to be with those whose body types and personalities that are not considered ideal — and sometimes those that are considered taboo.” So are women with muscles taboo?

A taboo is a social prohibition created by society. Even if female bodybuilder physiques are privately admired by men and women, many still judge them publicly. Female bodybuilders receive comments ranging from ‘she looks like a man’ to ‘she could bench press me’. Bodybuilder Kristi Bruce says, “I don’t want to look like a man. I want to look like a powerful version of myself.” Well said, and I’m sure the thought of most female bodybuilders.

Someone insulted Suzanne Germano with the comment “sleeping with me would be like sleeping with a man.” Another ignorant comment from which I’ve seen many articles in rebut. A certain homophobic fear from society does set in for the admirer, asking the question “does being attracted to female bodybuilders make you gay?”

In the forums of Unreal Muscle, Isabelle Turrell simply asked for user’s Facebook links. It quickly turned into a discussion on how many admirers weren’t comfortable with adding bodybuilders as Facebook friends. One wrote, “Being a female muscle admirer is like being gay 50 years ago, it’s considered in best case comical, in worst case a deeply perverted sickness.” Fear of what society says is a powerful force.

These are intriguing reasons why some people hide their passion for female muscle from the outside world. Female Bodybuilders may always be considered taboo and a sick, perverted fetish by society. Is there anything than can be done to change perception or does it even matter in the grand scheme of things.

I don’t really know the answer, I’m just an anonymous fan.

Contributing Writer Area Orion

18 Responses to "Hidden Obsessions & Female Muscle"

  1. j2001  May 20, 2010 at 1:28 pm

    I think that what damages the FBB fetish is right in front of our eyes: it is the development of a male character on a female body.
    It’s not just a social/mental problem (the male has to dominate/protect/earn money, females are the weak sex and bla bla). It’s just a biological matter. For example, 90% (western) males will develop slight biceps without lifting anything in their whole life, while females would end having their arms just as big as their bones.
    Of course females can lift and naturally develop muscles, but it doesn’t change anything. For example, a lot of women get slight moustache when they become old enough… that doesn’t mean moustache is not a typical male character which looks ugly on women.

    Thanks to the internet, a lot of fetish became nearly mainstream. I’m not talking about homosexuality, rather things like bondage, sadomasochism or even domination (being dominated by a female). All of this stuff may involve extreme actions but they do not feature a partial swap in sexual characters. Even domination, putting the female in a dominating role, does not change any physical character – the girl is (almost always) skinny like usual. Or she’s just a bit taller than common girls. Or fit (like Olympian athletes) which is already “extreme” to most people. That’s why everyone think we’re gay.

    Destroying the physical differences between males and females mean the end of the world.

    [I’m not a native English speaker, I’m sorry for my bad writing ability.]

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  2. PrgFeMscLvr  May 20, 2010 at 1:57 pm

    I think the answer is self-evident. Unless you’re lusting after the little pixie-looking girl, you’re seen as an outcast and wacko yourself. The Asylum “bodybuilder” pic kinda reinforces this.

    Btw, this doesn’t just apply to the FBB world. It could also be applied to BBW and FA. OR!!!! For that matter, anyone who lusts after women who aren’t 5’8″, 120 lbs.

    Hell, even if you like large breasts you could be seen as weird (I’m talking D and bigger).

    And, somehow, I don’t think any of these should be seen as fetishes except in the extreme cases. It’s all… taste. Every woman is different, and that should be celebrated – not shunned and turned into a mass-produced cookie cutter of “beauty” as determined by the Industrial Vanity Complex.

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  3. PghFeMscLvr  May 20, 2010 at 1:57 pm

    Hell, even if you like large breasts you could be seen as weird (I’m talking D and bigger).

    And, somehow, I don’t think any of these should be seen as fetishes except in the extreme cases. It’s all… taste. Every woman is different, and that should be celebrated – not shunned and turned into a mass-produced cookie cutter of “beauty” as determined by the Industrial Vanity Complex.

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  4. Ernie  May 20, 2010 at 2:06 pm

    I guess I’m one of these lurkers too. I have secretly admired FBBs since the beginning of the sport. I had a crush on a girl in high school who had big biceps. She was a cheerleader and one of the most beautiful girls in the school. I knew then that women could be muscular and beautiful at the same time. I gained appreciation for the human muscular form, whether male or female, and am a novice bodybuilder myself. The muscles of the human body are beautiful when they are developed properly. Female bodybuilders do not look like men because muscle does not have gender. We all have them. In my opinion, a beautiful woman is even more beautiful when she has shapely muscles.

    I suppose I keep this part of my life secret because of the taboos mentioned. I don’t want people to think that I’m gay or “weird”. Some people already think I am gay because I have big muscles. Of course they dare not say that to me. :) Also, my wife does not really appreciate that I collect images and videos of muscular women. She tolerates it. But out of respect for her I do not work with any images or videos when she is in the room. Nobody else in my family knows about my fetish, obsession, hobby or whatever you want to call it. :)

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  5. Bruce  May 20, 2010 at 8:35 pm

    I guess I’m one of these lurkers too. I have secretly admired FBBs since the beginning of the sport. I had a crush on a girl in high school who had big biceps. She was a cheerleader and one of the most beautiful girls in the school. I knew then that women could be muscular and beautiful at the same time. I gained appreciation for the human muscular form, whether male or female, and am a novice bodybuilder myself. The muscles of the human body are beautiful when they are developed properly. Female bodybuilders do not look like men because muscle does not have gender. We all have them. In my opinion, a beautiful woman is even more beautiful when she has shapely muscles.

    I suppose I keep this part of my life secret because of the taboos mentioned. I don’t want people to think that I’m gay or “weird”. Some people already think I am gay because I have big muscles. Of course they dare not say that to me. :) Also, my wife does not really appreciate that I collect images and videos of muscular women. She tolerates it. But out of respect for her I do not work with any images or videos when she is in the room. Nobody else in my family knows about my fetish, obsession, hobby or whatever you want to call it. :)

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  6. muldertx  May 21, 2010 at 12:13 am

    I agree with the points of this article. I have been a admirer of fbbs for most of my life and yes it is pretty much a secret admiration. My wife knows this and is perfectly fine with it. In fact if she sees a female with muscle she will point them out to me. I do have a few people close to me that know how I feel. The problem I have and most fbb admirers have is we have no personal friends to share with. I can call a friend up or see one at work and talk sports or politics or whatever all day long but there is not a single person I can talk fbb with. I live in the Dallas/Ft Worth and I am able to go to several bb contest a year but have to go alone. I do occasionally feel that I am this weird guy but after I think about it I am no different than any other guy.

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  7. Joel  May 21, 2010 at 5:27 pm

    This is always an interesting topic.

    Actually I’ve been meaning to finish an essay about this topic myself.

    I saw the thread in question on unreal muscle (site seems to be down these days) and I recall the quote mentioned here.

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  8. Fett  May 22, 2010 at 8:02 am

    Nice read.

    I would think though, that the real reason media outlets show picture after picture of FBBs when they say they’re ugly is not because, deep down, they like them, but it’s much more like the Freak Show.

    People have always find a strange interest in what they perceive to be grotesque – staring at insects, amputees, and so on. It’s that perverse pleasure of the grotesque that motivates the showing of pictures, rather than a deep-seated adoration.

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  9. luisfernando- rio de janeiro  May 23, 2010 at 7:30 am

    cada um tem odireito de gostar do corpo que desejar,eu sou apaixonado por mulheres musculosas.lori quero deixar uma sugestão,uma entrevista com a linda bonny priest é possivel?

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  11. Gilz  October 24, 2010 at 7:04 pm

    I guess I’m in between a lurker and someone comfortable with it. I have watched videos and cycled through pics with a friend of mine that I found was into it too, and I didn’t feel quite so weird then, but I do keep it mostly a ‘secret’. I know society doesn’t accept it very openly so I keep it to myself. Admittedly, it’s my own fear and ego keeping me from feeling okay about it but we all have our insecurities. It seems society is more accepting of things that are more prevelant in day to day happenings. If fbbs were more common I would have less problems sharing my affection for them but until that day, itll be something I will hide. Or try at least :)

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  12. James Peter  May 9, 2012 at 2:59 am

    I would say that most men respond to and desire ‘fitness level’ models but are intimidated by any more development, i.e. bodybuilders. We aficionados are in a distinct minority, which is odd. The male form is exemplified by such development; it’s directly related to breeding. However, the female, who’s contribution is more, not less, to the future progeny, is not sought out for the same characteristics. This is purely cultural, it’s origin I cannot pinpoint.

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  13. Zack  May 9, 2012 at 11:09 am

    If anything, I’m jealous that I didn’t have what it took to look like any bodybuilder. That’s not to say that any of them look like freaks or men to me. I love the way female bodybuilders look and I just hope most of them are a “hoot” to get to know as friends. So far I haven’t been as lucky to cross paths with any of them.

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  14. Rick  May 9, 2012 at 11:14 am

    There was the one key word, fetish. Too many people consider that, if a man likes a strong woman, that it has to be a fetish.

    I am friends with about 15 FBB/fitness women, as well as about 10 pages that I like. I have gotten comments about it being a fetish.

    Ten years ago I would have been hiding this, no more, I love strong women and I should not have to hide this fact.

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  15. Felipe L. Simmons  May 24, 2012 at 7:55 am

    I have a deep admiration and love of female bodybuilders since the late seventies going into to the eighties and beyond for I have grown tired of this society force feeding the so-called beauty ideal which is a joke in and of itself.

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  16. Josh  June 25, 2012 at 12:10 am

    They might be attractive to some but don’t call them females. They have gone beyond that. They are halfway houses between females and males on account of the artificial testosterone they take.

    Realistically, to partner with a female bodybuilder would be inviting big problems into your life. They are obsessive, eat like horses, spend a fortune on anabolic steroids and growth hormones, have violent mood swings, can be very aggressive, coo in your ear with deep masculine voices, could penetrate you with their clits, and there will be medical bills for the damage they’ve done to their bodies from the male hormones they’ve ingested or injected.

    No, no, no………..the best option is to admire them from afar.

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  17. greg  November 21, 2015 at 2:15 am

    First of all, we have to find the right people. And then open up that you like fitness girls and make suggestions slowly of more muscular women.

    If society won´t accept that much and we can´t find the right people, the media etc there´s nothing we can do. If we look at models on the catwalk, why does society accept that? A lot of these “models” are painfully thin. It´s mainstream, but it doesn´t mean it´s good!

    @PrgFeMscLvr summed up things pretty well. All body types out of the ordinary gets negative attention — BBW, size D breast maybe or more, people would look at you down the street and go “wow!” or “woh!” or “huh!” And women with muscles is another one of those things.

    And what about the male horse jockeys that are more feminine than masculine who beat their horses? Somehow society thinks that´s “normal.” We´ll never understand these things, and we really don´t know why FBB won´t get more acceptance.

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  18. Gregory  December 24, 2015 at 9:36 am

    For me its inspiration not a fetish. To see the dedication it takes to achieve a muscular body & to see the results via a lady is gratifying. Since I am a man, i don’t won’t to look at male bodybuilders. So I chose to view women. Nice article!

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